From time to time, we are faced with the question of how men and women should wear their hair, especially in church services. Some new people who get in contact with us feel that a woman must wear a veil in services, and especially during the opening or closing prayer. Others feel that a man can wear shoulder-length long hair, or he can do so by wearing it as a ponytail. Then, teens and young adults, and/or their parents, often may not know what hair length and hairstyle is appropriate for them.
We have previously addressed the issue of proper hair length in Q&As. Before extensively quoting from them, a word of caution, which we set forth in regard to proper dress in chapter 12 of our free booklet, “How Can Young People Cope With Life?”, but which would equally apply to the question of proper hair length:
“It may sometimes be difficult to strike a proper balance as to what is appropriate and inappropriate clothing. There may be a tendency to set forth detailed rules and ‘descriptions’ of what is supposedly allowed and prohibited, thereby creating what could be described as a ‘yard-stick’ approach. In this chapter, we will NOT do this, but rather, we will set forth suggestions, recommendations, guidelines and principles, while avoiding to create teachings, perhaps based on human traditions (like the Pharisees did), which the Bible does not contain…
“We need to keep in mind that we must NEVER condemn or judge self-righteously our spiritual brother and sister and their children for what is being worn (compare James 4:11–12; 2:1–4, 13). If a matter needs to be addressed on an individual basis, the ministry will do so. We are all learning to become more and more perfect in the eyes of God, and to increase in stature with people, and this process requires time and patience. As a general principle regarding proper clothing, we need to reflect God’s standards at all times, when appearing in public.”
As we said, these principles apply equally to proper hair length for men and women.
Let us reiterate first our long-standing teaching on proper hair length for women and the issue of whether they are supposed to wear a veil in services.
In our Q&A from May 31, 2003, titled, “Would you please explain 1 Corinthians 11:2-16 (instructing men to wear short hair, and women to wear long hair)…?”, we said this:
“In 1 Corinthians 11, Paul sets forth the timeless principles of proper hairstyle and hair length for men and women. After explaining in 1 Corinthians 11:3 that the Head of Christ is God the Father, the Head of a man is Christ, and the head of the woman (wife) is the man (husband), Paul continues: ‘… (verse 5) But every woman who prays or prophecies with her head uncovered dishonors her head, for that is one and the same as if her head were shaved. (verse 6) For if a woman is not covered, let her also be shorn. But if it is shameful for a woman to be shorn or shaved, let her be covered. (verse 7)… (verse 10) For this reason the woman ought to have a symbol of authority on her head, because of the angels… (verse 13) Judge among yourselves. Is it proper for a woman to pray to God with her head uncovered?… (verse 15) But if a woman has long hair, it is a glory to her; for her hair is given to her for a covering.’
“The context of the Scripture discusses the length of hair — not the wearing of a veil or of a hat… We read that a woman should wear long hair, which is given to her ‘as a covering’ or, as some translations render this, ‘as a veil.’”
We would like to mention that, even though Paul is addressing the situation between husband and wife here, the issue of hair length and hairstyle would equally apply, in principle, to unmarried women, teenage girls, and young adults as well. Even though there is no prohibition to wear a hat, for example, in church services for a “fashion style” statement, it would be wrong if it were done with the erroneous belief that God commands it and that the woman would sin if she were to pray without wearing a hat or a veil. (The same applies to someone who refrains from eating clean meat, but does so believing that God commands him or her not to do it.)
To continue with quoting from our above-mentioned Q&A:
“The Church of the Eternal God and its sister churches are not going to engage in a ‘yard-stick religion’ of defining and regulating how long and how short hair should be worn. However, the following Biblical principles are helpful:
“We read that a woman should have ‘long hair’ as a covering, as distinguished from an ‘uncovered’ head, a ‘shaved’ head, or a ‘shorn’ head. A ‘shorn’ head pictures very short hair. One might think of the analogy of a ‘shorn’ sheep… A ‘shaved’ head describes a bald head. In contrast, a woman should wear ‘long hair,’ showing that she accepts the authority of her husband over her, ‘because of the angels.’ The thought is conveyed here that a wife cannot rely on angelic protection, if she shows through her conduct that she does not accept the God-given authority of her husband over her. (This is not to say, however, that a husband should ever abuse his authority. Our free booklet, ‘The Keys to Happy Marriages and Families,’ explains the God-ordained husband-and-wife-relationship in much detail)…”
“We are… to follow the clear principles given in 1 Corinthians 11 — that a woman should not wear her hair as to look like a man, and a man should not wear his hair as to look like a woman. If one cannot tell, by just looking at hairstyles and hair lengths, whether a person is a male or a female, then the clear guidelines set forth in 1 Corinthians 11 have not been followed.”
To add to this and to reemphasize, a man is under the authority of God. So is a wife, but she is also under the authority of her husband. Her long hair symbolizes that. To wear hair which does not “cover” her head, or shaved or shorn hair would violate the command, symbolically, to be under her husband’s authority.
What is too short and too long can be difficult for some to determine. If in doubt, consult the ministry for advice.
A thumbnail approach would be:
When you look at a man and based on his hair length or hairstyle, he looks like a woman with long hair, or one cannot determine his gender, and if you look at a woman and based on her hairstyle or hair length, she looks like a man with short hair, or one cannot determine her gender, then we have crossed the line.
Also, hairstyle goes hand in hand with long or short hair. That too should reflect and reveal a gender.
We added the following in a Q&A from May 1, 2009, titled, “What are the biblical principles regarding hair length and dress for men and women?”
“The key for falling within the guidelines instituted by God in His Word is for men to avoid having female type hairstyles and for women to maintain a proper length to serve as a covering and as an unmistakable woman-like appearance… A man should look like a man, and a woman should look like a woman. The difference should be recognizable based on outward appearance. When the length or style of hair, all by itself, does not allow to make that determination, then the particular hairstyle or hair length would need to be modified… Our hairstyle should be ‘normal.’ It should be viewed by the overwhelming majority of society as ‘acceptable,’ rather than as outlandish…”
Addressing now in particular the hair length and hairstyle for men, we said the following in our Q&A from May 31, 2003, “Would you please explain 1 Corinthians 11:2-16 (instructing men to wear short hair, and women to wear long hair)…?”,
“Paul continues: ‘(verse 4) Every man praying or prophesying, having his head covered, dishonors his head. (verse 5)… For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, since he is the image and glory of God… (verse 14) Does not even nature itself teach you that if a man has long hair, it is a dishonor to him?…”
“… we are told that a man is not to wear ‘long hair,’ and that even nature teaches us that wearing long hear is a ‘dishonor’ to a man. The Greek word for ‘dishonor’ is ‘atimia.’… Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance points out that ‘atimia’ can describe a comparative indignity or disgrace (under No. 819). The related word, ‘atimos,’ can describe something ‘less honorable [comparative degree]’ (under No. 820)…
“… the Old Testament permitted a man on special occasions to wear long hair. This exception is set forth in Numbers 6, known as ‘the Law of the Nazarite.’ Men were permitted to make a temporary ‘Nazarite vow’ to God. During the time of their vow, a Nazarite was not to cut his hair, but let ‘the locks of the hair of his head grow’ (verse 5). In addition, he was not to touch a dead person, eat any fresh grapes or raisins, or drink anything made from grapes, including wine. This law was inseparably connected with the ritual law of sacrifices: At the end of the separation, the Nazarite had to bring several offerings, and he had to go through additional rituals before the priest.
“The long hair of the Nazarite vow reflected, in physical terms, the willingness of the person to be under authority — under the authority of God. Sometimes, certain people were consecrated from their birth as Nazarites, to be separated to God throughout their lives. Famous examples are Samson (Judges 13:5,7); Samuel (1 Samuel 1:11); and — perhaps — John the Baptist (Luke 1:15; Luke 7:33)…
“… these vows ceased within the church when the temple was destroyed, as the purification ceremonies could not be carried out any longer. Today, the rules and regulations pertaining to a Nazarite vow are no longer of any consequence for us…”
We might want to add here that Paul’s comments that it is a shame for a man to wear long hair, as only a Nazarite was allowed to do so. A man wearing long hair today would appropriate to himself the example of a Nazarite without being one. It would be shameful and quite frankly dishonorable to God to do so today. Just as an aside, Jesus was not a Nazarite, as the Q&As mentioned herein prove as well, and therefore didn’t have long hair. We would also like to add that our statements about hair length and hairstyle of men would equally apply to teens and young adults.
We added the following comments in our Q&A from May 1, 2009, titled, “What are the biblical principles regarding hair length and dress for men and women?”
“God permits differences in length of hair, and we note that varieties occur in hair color and texture among people. Some men will wear very short hair while others will have fuller styles; the same might be true, to an extent, for women. The key for falling within the guidelines instituted by God in His Word is for men to avoid having female type hairstyles and for women to maintain a proper length to serve as a covering and as an unmistakable woman-like appearance…
“In reviewing hair length and hairstyle of men and women, we conclude, based on biblical principles, that one should be able to determine the gender of a person at first sight. To put it bluntly: A man should look like a man, and a woman should look like a woman. The difference should be recognizable based on outward appearance. When the length or style of hair, all by itself, does not allow to make that determination, then the particular hairstyle or hair length would need to be modified.
“In addition, we must consider more of what God specifically instructs concerning how we ought to wear our hair… During the Hippie-culture of the 1960s, young men would wear long hair, but this was never accepted by the majority of our Western society… Today, a man with long hair is normally looked upon as ‘different.’ The types of hairstyle propagated today by the MTV generation, with hair sticking out like that of a porcupine, or uncombed, giving a sloppy appearance, or hair which is just too long for a man, is simply not in line with how a Christian man should appear in public…”
It may be so that today, certain hair lengths and hairstyles in our “liberal” societies might be “accepted” which would have been rejected in times past. On the other hand, in certain cultures and in medieval times, long hair for men was accepted and even advocated. But we cannot go by those “rules,” which come and go, but need to have a sound mind, based on God’s instructions.
Again, if in doubt, consult your minister.
Lead Writer: Norbert Link